Most times we find ourselves in situations where we don’t know what to do nor who to turn to. Some of us keep our problems inside and we don’t share.
Here is the story of my friend, whose problem I wish to share.

It was the eve to her birthday and i got a call from Nneka..... “Hello Beauty''!  Ya, was up? i said"  Emeka just proposed and i said yes!! She said screaming. YEA!!! I screamed also. I was so happy for her.
She has been dating Emeka for 5years and we were all happy that finally he has pop the ‘big’ question.  5years is a long time coming.  I could remember how she always came crying, saying she is tired of waiting for Emeka this long and that her Mum is on her case to get married. It is only normal for your Mum to be on your case, especially at this age, just keep praying. I would tell her. 

Typical of every girl, she took a picture of her ring and used as her BBM display picture. Before you could say jack, she had all her contact using the same picture as their own DP too.

Nneka is a very loving girl who believes in one woman one man kind of thing. I call her STRONG because she has endured so many hurts caused by her boyfriend. She once caught her boyfriend making out with a girl in his car, caught him kissing her friend, and has also seen several nude pictures of a girl in his phone. These and many more are the things my friend has been through. Which makes you see why i call her ‘Strong’?

Nneka met Emeka back in her University years, she was a ‘jambite’ and she fell for him right away because he was a very sweet guy. You know that kind of romance you think was ordained in heaven.
I think his choice of friends was his biggest problem although he loves Nneka but sometimes......

After the call, i went through my BBM contacts and basically everyone i know, that knows Nneka all had a congratulatory message as their DM.

Two months later, we all were headed to her family house at Oregun (somewhere in ikeja) for her introduction. The Igbo's see introduction as a formal way the Man(husband to be) comes with his people, either his elder brother , his friends or uncles to the girl's(bride to be) house to properly introduce himself and state his reason why he is there i.e. to marry their daughter

It was a successful introduction and Emeka went home with the bride list (rites/fees to pay), while we waited anxiously for the wedding date.

Its 2years now since Emeka collected the list and there have been no response from him nor his people. Nneka has asked him so many times why he is taking so much time and he keeps coming up with excuses. How his new work (now a banker) is taking most of his time.

As it seems, Nneka is frustrated. She has given him 7years of her life and she doesn't know what to do. All her friends are asking her when her wedding is coming up and all. She is just tired of lying.

She called me yesterday and was crying. According to her, she went through Emeka's phone as he has been acting funny of late and she saw his chat with one Dolapo girl and found out from his chat that he has been spending nights with her. She confronted him about this and he lied saying his friend is using his phone at work to woo a girl lol.... as it is now she is so devastated and don’t know what to do.

What is your advice for her? Should she go on waiting for him? Not to forget she has been wearing her engagement ring for 2years now or should she let go and move on?  

xoxo
Buiti