Happy hump day my lovely readers!!!
I just want to thank all the visitors i get on this blog and i appreciate you all, you keep me going.
Two days agao, i did a post for the guys..Whoop! Whoop! and i got so much messages from them. Am happy you all liked it.
We will be doing a reverse on the last post, but this time its for the ladies.*winks*
It is funny how today a colleague of mine, was holding a big size cello-tape and she said" If this became a fashion accessory she can bet Buiti would rock it " lol common.... well i would and believe me she won't remember it was previously the cello-tape hehehehehe
We all know how most ladies don't like going outside of the box, they have this rule they live by. Well in my own case some rules are meant to be broken hehehehe.... 
Below are my 5 fashion rules ladies should break. Like i said in my last post am entitled to my own opinion ba? lol
I would use some of my pictures just so you see that i break these rules too...

1. You can mix gold and silver jewelry: Mixing gold and silver jewelry is so it. Forget the gist of them saying its a mix match. Well they never tried one.

 2. Print and Pattern are acceptable: You can combine loose print with structured print( like swirls and stripes or animal prints and stripes) you can  also blend small designs with large scale designs

3. You can totally wear one shade of color head to toe: Wearing one color head to toe is so chick, but you have to know how to do this without looking like a clown .Choose the right color that suits your skin tone and you would be rocking this look.

4. Sweaters are the New T.Shirt: Yup! you heard that. Forget that gist of wearing sweaters only during the cold season, well not for me. To rock this, all you have to do is to style your sweater with the right accessories

5. You can tuck in without wearing a belt: Some times tucking your shirt in without wearing a belt isn't as bad as people say it is. I really do that alot but the trick is to ensure you are well put together.

+1- Who said short girls can't wear mid skirts? Skirt that falls above the ankle are often considered a don't for women who aren't long and lean. It is said to make them appear shorter because, it cuts them half way. I think mid- skirt are super cute on petite girls like me, as along as they pair it with the right heels and tucked in so they don't look swallowed up.

Some men think fashion is just for the women, well you wrong. In today’s world, more men are discovering the benefits of  looking good. Fashion affects men far more than they are willing to admit. Some men i know, now compete with their wife or girlfriend lol.... Remember, looking good and staying healthy should be as important to you as making money.
Here to me  are  my 10 commandment for men. You may not totally agree but am entitled to my opinion ba? lol

1. Pay attention to  your shoes.. You could have the most amazing outfit, but totally ruin it with dirty or mismatched shoes. Do not wear colored shoes.  Invest in earth tones and black only. Haven’t you heard that a man’s shoes are the first things a woman notice?
2. Wear socks that match your pants: Black pants = black socks. Brown pants = brown socks.
3. Socks are relatively cheap, So why are people walking around with holes in their socks!? Buttom line, wear sockes without holes
4. If you keep a full beard, that means your look must always be sharp! Or else you end up looking like a mad man roaming the streets.
5. Dont wear a running shoes, unless you actually running.
6. Never wear a socks on a sandals
7. Never wear a stripe tie on a strip shirt. That is a disaster
8. Always wear a belt. Women hate it when men pull their trouser from the crouch just because they have no belt on. Just be sure to match it with your shoes.
9. Always wear fitted cloths. When i say fitted, i don't mean tight clothes, i mean clothes your size not a size smaller or bigger. Bulky clothes only make you look bigger
10. Be careful with the men jewelry, a lilttle goes a long way

+1. Always roll up your sleeves, it leaves an impression you working (hot) even when you not.



A man can be short and ugly but if he dresses well, he will get any woman he wants.
Do you agree? xoxo Buiti

It was in the month of March 2011, i was scrolling through my BBM, so bored i began looking for someone to chat with. I came upon my Brother’s DP. I noticed he had the picture of a guy up and the face wasn’t bad looking. So I decided to chat up my brother “Wilson, what’s up, who is this guy on your dp”? He is my friend Ben, he stays in UK, he replied. I then told my brother that he was  good looking. I  think my brother later told his friend what i said and he asked for my bb pin,because the next thing i knew i saw a bb request.

He did not say anything after i added him up ( i know some of us know how that feels) So i started a conversation. "Hi, who are you? i pretended like i did not know him ( i would not fall my hand) Hi dear' ,my name is Ben Wilson's friend, he responded. That was how our conversation started. So we continued chatting for a very long time that day. Funny how i felt so comfortable chatting with him.
After that day, we continued chatting with each other. What  started as an on and off chat , grew into an everyday chat.

As time went by, he asked for my number and it moved to phone calls. He was working at two different places then, in the morning by 10am- 2pm den at evening from 5pm-12am.
The only time we don't talk is when he was at work. I remember waiting up most time till 12 am at midnight when he gets off work only so we could talk. We will be on the phone  talking and laughing until he gets home by 1am or there about before i finally go to sleep.

I won’t say i was in love with him, that will be a lie but i really did like him and for me that was a bond.
After about 4months or so he stopped calling me like he use to and i asked what was wrong? he told me his Mum was coming around and he was just trying to put things in order. This continued for 2weeks. His mum had come and gone, then he was back to normal

We resumed our regular talk and gist. With him we could talk just about anything. He planned to return during the Christmas break so we could meet and he could also spend Christmas with his family.Then along the line he lost his Dad.  It was a painful exist for him because he has not seen his dad in awhile, more painful because he was far from home. The whole planned changed and he had to return home earlier before December.

I was with him all through not physically but morally and all. I constantly called to check up on him and do everything necessary i could do.
My brother found out i was getting close to him, so he called to warn me “Mama (the name they call me at home) don't waste your time with Ben, i heard he is on you now”. He is from Anambra State , these people only marry themselves. Don't want you hurt. Ben has a girlfriend, forget what he is saying, he has a babe in the UK".

I later asked Ben if what my brother said about him was true. He told me it wasn’t and that his elder brother married from Imo state so, how can that be true. I agreed.
It was a week to his return for his dad's burial , i was excited, so excited i had got him a gift.
Everything he bought before his returned, we both shopped together. In the sense that, everything he bought i picked it. He sent me pictures and if i approve he buys. We were so close and i was just so happy he was finally coming.

On the day of his departure, he called me to tell me the time of his flight. I called him some hours later and he said, he was on his way to the airport that he will call me when he checks in.
I waited for his call and i didn't get. No call or Text. His flight time was passed so  i tried calling and i was told the number was switched off.
I was shocked! how would he board without calling me .I patiently waited, in my mind i was already making excuses for him.. may be he got in late and he quickly had to check in and all
I tried his number 8hours later, knowing it takes just 6hours to get to Nigeria, but the call wasn’t connecting. OH!! maybe he did not put his number on roaming, I thought.

 So i waited all through that day but did not get a call. I tried the next day and it was same.. I started having double thought. It’s 2days and still no call or text.
On the 3rd day, my phone rang........ "Hello Beauty! came the voice from the other end. I was happy to hear his voice. I asked him how he was and also what went wrong? He said he had to buy a Nigerian line, register it and it took 24hrs before it could come up.
I asked why he did not use his Sister's or brother's phone to call me, knowing i would be worried. He told me he had lots of guest at home and every one was in to see him so he was occupied.

Before he left UK, the plan we had  was for him to come see me a week after he arrives. We spoke often on the phone this time not as regular as it was in the Uk. I just attributed it to his dad's burial , that preparation has made him so busy .
To cut the long story short. I actually waited in vain. he kept giving me excuse on why he couldn't come, everyday a new excuse. I felt bad. It was a week left before he was scheduled to return back. He promised to come see me that weekend, i waited patiently and he didn't show. I called he did not pick i got upset and did not call again that's when I realised that something was wrong.

Why is he acting this way? What is happening? So many question on my mind. The day for his departure came and left and still no call or text. I was so sad and upset, words cant describe how disappointed i felt. I did not understand what went wrong.
A week later, a call came in and it was him! He was calling with his UK number. Waoo! so he came and left without seeing me? I sluggishly picked up my phone and there he was begging that he was sorry. I cried, i felt hurt , i felt not good enough. I asked him what went wrong? He came out with him not wanting to hurt me, i asked how? he said he knew he would hurt me in the future so that's why he did not want to see me.i felt so bad. I don't understand how you knew all this but waited until now....

He said he can't explain but if he meets me, I will be hurt in the future.
What kind of hurt is more than this i feel now? I ended the call.
I took what i bought for him and gave it out . I told my self never again......
Some months later... he called and was acting like he wanted us back.
I knew he loved his Mom, so I said to him. I will not take you serious until your Mom calls me and he couldn't  do that.

I notice a month later that my brother put up his picture and in that picture he was with a lady, more like a court setting.
He just got married!! I could see his picture and that of his wife.
I asked my brother he told me that's his wife and they just got married. A month later? That quick?
Then my brother's words played in my thoughts....I then remembered his words "If I meet you, i will hurt you in future" then and there those words made sense.
He is married now, but life goes on.....

As usual some one might wonder why I wrote this or write about my true life stories. Its simple!
Life is a Teacher and we all are learners

Until i write again

LIVE! LOVE! LAUGH!

Pls  pardon  any  typo  error
(Real  names  withheld)

Hallo!!

TGIF!!!
What better way to start off this Friday than to start it off with our Fashion face-off. Yeah!!
Today we have two beautiful ladies A Makeup Artist and A Business lady. Different ladies, different personalities and different styles

Meet Ekere Faith, she is a Make up Artist( Glam Fairy)) and a Customer Service Executive. She loves to cook, read, dance and travel alot. She can't do without her LA concealer and sleek lips stick









Meet Rellindis , a business lady. She sells ladies wears and she a cloth lover. She loves dressing up for fun and she cant do without her phone (common she needs it for her business)

Ahmad and Sarah live in the same town; their both parents were very close friends so that made them family friends. Sarah has always referred to him as call Uncle Ahmad.
For Sarah, she has always had a crush on Ahmad ever since she was a teenager.
When she turned 18, she felt she was old enough to tell him how she felt, but at that time he had a girlfriend.

Some months later, she found out from his Sister, who is also her friend that he was out of the relationship and was happy about the "good news”. She got his number, and contacted him which led to a new formed friendship. 

At first Ahmad thought it was just her being nice to him, until she told droped the bomb on him, telling him, she has always liked him but couldn't say so to him because, he was in a relationship. Ahmad, who just got out from a breakup, didn't know what to do. One day he told himself, 'Sarah has been nice to me ever since my last breakup and she seems like a good girl. So he agreed to date her.  She stopped calling him Uncle Ahmad and started calling him "Baby"
This went on for some months and soon Ahmad was coming back for the weekend to see his parents. Sarah was excited.

She lied to her mom, just so she could go see Ahmad. In her bag was a beautiful red dress that she bought at a shop down town. Her plan was to rush to her friends place to change then off she goes to Ahmad's place.
When Sarah got to Ahmad's place, she couldn't wait to see him, she was so excited that she jumped on him and kissed him all over. They were so overwhelmed with their emotions that they ended up making love. She just lost her virginity to that one man she had a crush on for so many years.

Ahmad works in Lagos but travels every other weekend to Ondo to see her.
Anytime Ahmad was in town, Sarah would sneak from her Mum's shop to go see him. They made love every time. She got so into him at that time.
A year letter, she got a scholarship to go read Medicine in UK, she had to leave. She was so sad but they both knew she won’t be back until after 3years. That means he always has to keep going to UK if he has to see her.

Ahmad knew, he wouldn't wait for her. She was just 19 and he was 28. He wasn't ready for long distance because experience has taught him. Ahmad waited until she got to UK before he called her. They both talked and he told her, he couldn't wait for her. His reasons were that, he will obviously cheat on her and also she was too young.

For now all they do is talk on phone but not as often. Her birthday is in 2months, she is expecting him but he doesn't feel he should go.

Ahmad and i spoke at length about this and he wants to know if he was wrong or right with the decision he made? 


This is a true story but real names withheld